detach
dee-TATCH
/dɪˈtætʃ/
To disconnect or separate oneself emotionally from a person or situation.
In a relationship context, it often refers to a conscious effort to stop caring as much in order to protect oneself.
The story behind the word. From the Old French 'des-' (apart) and 'tacher' (to fix or fasten). It is the literal opposite of 'attach'. It entered English in the 17th century, originally as a military term for sending a group of soldiers away on a specific mission.
Word relationships
- disengage: Disengage is more about stopping an action; detach is more about breaking an emotional bond.
- disconnect: Disconnect is more general; detach often implies a deliberate choice.
- attach: Attach is to connect; detach is to disconnect.
- engage: Engage is to involve oneself; detach is to withdraw.
Commonly confused with
- distance: Distance can be physical or emotional; detach is specifically about the bond.
Word family
- detachment (noun): The state of being objective or aloof.
Collocations
- detach emotionally
- detach oneself from
- remain detached
Example sentences
- "He found it necessary to detach himself emotionally before he could finally move out." Protecting oneself during a breakup.
- "Learning to detach from toxic people is a vital skill for mental health." A psychological advice.
Memory hook
Detach is like 'de-attaching' a sticker. Detach = De-Attach.
When not to use
Don't use it if the separation is purely physical; it usually implies an emotional withdrawal.
Fun facts
- In art, a 'detached' fresco is one that has been removed from the wall it was originally painted on.
Explore more words
disengagement, disconnect, attachment, decouple, isolate, deactivate
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